The following Sunday after Valentine’s Day, I got the chance to see a really nice movie for couples at my sister’s church. I cried buckets just like the rest of the audience, but I went home really blessed.


Fireproof is a movie that revolves around the firefighter’s motto of “Never leave your partner behind.” The marriage of Caleb Holt (Kirk Cameron), a heroic fireman, and Catherine (Erin Bethea) is on the rocks, and Catherine wants a divorce. As a last-ditch attempt at saving his marriage, Caleb’s father John (Harris Malcolm) presents his son with “The Love Dare” challenge. Each day for 40 days, Caleb has to do something for his wife to convince her to stay. This seems to be a formidable feat as Catherine constantly rejects him. Find out how Catherine is swayed in the end to give her husband a second chance.

I love this movie for the wonderful lessons it imparts to husbands and wives. Here are some of the things from “The Love Dare” that are worth remembering:
1. Say something nice to your spouse.
2. Do an unexpected act for your spouse.
3. Buy your partner a gift that says you’re thinking of him/her today.
4. Ask your spouse if he/she is doing okay or if he/she needs anything today.
5. Pray for your spouse.

According to the movie, we will definitely encounter fire in our marriage. The most important thing is that we’re able to withstand the fire if it does happen.

Have you ever thought about why people get married? I often wonder if happily married couples tied the knot because they’re head over heels in love with each other. Honestly, that’s the first thing that comes to mind when I see or hear couples getting married. In reality, though, there are a number of reasons why people get hitched.

Some people marry for love. I think this is still the best reason why people should get married. You want to spend the rest of your life with the person you love and who loves you back in return.

Others marry for companionship. The fear of growing old alone drives some people to marry even if they’re not necessarily in love with the person they’re marrying. There are those who eventually fall in love with the person they married.

Some marry for convenience. It may be that the girl gets pregnant and she sees marrying the man responsible for her situation as the next best thing to do. After all, she and her baby need moral, emotional, and financial support.

There are also people who marry to meet their physical and sexual needs. A man needs someone to cook for him, to fix his things, to listen to his woes, to just be there for him, and to satisfy his carnal desires. There are women, too, who look for these things in a marriage.

The need to have children is also one of the reasons why people get married. It’s a comforting feeling to know that there’ll be someone to perpetuate your species for all the world to see. Besides, I really believe children are the greatest joys of parents.

Whether you marry for love, for companionship, for convenience, for the fulfillment of your physical and sexual needs, or for having children, I still don’t think marriage is something that you should take lightly. Marriage can make or break you. So marry for the right reasons. As for me, I’m glad I married my husband. He might not be the perfect man, but he’s the perfect one for me.